Sergey Brin's Unretirement
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Google co-founder Sergey Brin on leaving retirement to work on AI - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=37226292 - Aug 2023 (25 comments)
Back at Google Again, Cofounder Sergey Brin Just Filed His First Code Request - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=34645311 - Feb 2023 (16 comments)
The tech world is abuzz with Sergey Brin's unretirement, sparking a lively debate about the cult of billionaires and the superficiality of some tech journalism. As commenters skewered the article's lack of substance, one remark that Brin's return to Google is "a lesson for the rest of us" was met with eye-rolling and sarcasm, with some likening it to a "problems we wish we had" narrative. A moderator stepped in to quell the snark, advocating for constructive criticism, and the conversation pivoted to the broader issue of billionaire worship and the homogenization of online discourse. This thread feels relevant now as it taps into the ongoing conversation about the intersection of tech, wealth, and influence.
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No one is saying you owe billionaires better, but you owe this community better if you're participating in it.
If you wouldn't mind reviewing https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and taking the intended spirit of the site more to heart, we'd be grateful.
To do so during a time when tech is also dragging its reputation into the mud by generally harming the rank and file, through large corporations whose actions are not held to account in anti-trust laws, to tech bro oligarchs who wine and dine with power while the rest of us are worst off in a time of unprecedented inequality, to tech laying off hundreds of thousands of employees over the last few years, to LLMs replacing hard working people with slop-generators… is just additional insult to injury.
The article is simply, itself, shallow. "… Is a Lesson for the Rest of Us" — no; barring unforeseen and extremely unlikely circumstances, I'm literally never going to have the "problems" faced by Brin, because I have no expectation of ever retiring with "perpetual wealth" levels of money.
A couple points that are important, if you want to understand how moderation works on HN:
(1) we're mostly responding to a random sample of the total content - there's far too much for us to read it all. I have the impression that when someone posts a "you're moderating this, of all things?" comment, as you did here, there's probably a background of seeing lots of cases where a comment ought to have been moderated but wasn't. Then the moderators' priorities start to look strange. The likeliest reason for this, though, is that we just didn't see it.
[editing - bear with me...]
(And hardly anyone mentions Greenland on X.)
The third sentence of the article is
> But one misstep he admitted to might surprise a lot of people who dream of the day they can quit their 9-to-5.
Does anyone really believe the co founder of google retiring after their rise to supremacy in search was the equivalent of someone quitting their 9-5?
They might have well said “Google co-founder shares secrets that stealing bread to eat when you’re hungry and sleeping under bridges is actually illegal”
Most tech jobs aren’t a 9-5 either since that’s a traditional hourly job and tech has on call rotations that are unpaid.
This is what I’m talking about with the article insulting the readers intelligence. If you wanted to make the point of “people who retire should be aware that they need to find meaning outside of work” then it could just say so, instead of trying to act like it’s so hard to be so wealthy that there is no more struggle in life and you need to invent new ones for yourself.
The lede is that Sergey is back full-time at Google and I haven't happened to see any other post about that, let alone a good one. If there's a better article, we can consider changing the link.
(and in any case, people still should not be posting things like https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46452725 to HN, no matter how bad an article is—so the moderation point stands.)
HBOs Silicon Valley is more accurate than any Paul Graham essay
That's in contrast with all of us who see the companies led by these guys as the cancer of society and we'd quit and never look back if we had FU money.
My feelings aside, if all their purpose is to grow their company, I kinda get why they wouldn't give a damn about bettering the mankind, improving their communities or raising a healthy family.
https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
In this case I agree though, he’s the boss, not beholden to anyone. Can wander around and do what interests him.
Just be sure to swap games once in a while so you don't get bored.
Most people though genuinely like activities that most times would be impossible to monetize enough to make a living, which isn’t a problem if you’re rich. Alternatively, there are plenty of things people want to do that they have no intention of being the best at, they want to dabble.
paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29857928/
Working on something fun and novel, like in his case Gemini, mentioned in the article, is the ideal.
I took a semi retirement approach to the business, there really wasn't a lot of things to do, my role was sort of just "managing" programmers. I got so much free time that I could even start a second business on the side.
Despite my best ability to stretch my work, I couldn't even fill up half of my working hours. One would have thought that this is heaven. But the time I was most free was also the time I was most miserable. I wasn't happy, I was gaining weight, I was perennially asking myself why the business couldn't be bigger and I couldn't sell it, so that I can be real millionaires and billionaires with financial freedom!
Then fate intervened, the sudden fortune disappeared and I no longer had the luxury of just "managing people"; I have to do hands-on. And it was this activity, the feeling that I was contributing to something, that I was writing code again and actually building stuffs, that made me happy again.
Today we are bigger than what we once we were, but still, I am writing code and pretty much hands-on.I vow that I will never retire, even though if I could. Because it's the meaningful work that sustains life and provides happiness.
https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
For you.
For me, it is having the time to do what I wish. Currently helping a friend with recovery after a major surgery. Next month, who knows?
No, it's not at all the same as "meaningful work".
At least in part, I do not need the attaboys or regular 'sense of accomplishment' that one get from plate-spinning or other meaningful work.
Seriously, I'm glad he came back and found something he's interested in.
Google has made some subtle moves that a lot of folks missed, possibly with Sergey's influence. Like hiring back Noam Shazeer, who practically invented the backbone of the technology.
It's good to have folks with presumptions of being scientists actually run companies for once.
That being said, I wish his ex-wife hadn't spent her millions in the divorce proceedings to get RFK Jr into a cabinet level position to gut billions in research spending. :(
Doesn't apply to throwaway encapsulated weekend projects I don't care about, or things that have a stable interface which I can redo later. Those get the codex treatment.
I use Thinking and Pro. I don't use the default ChatGPT so can't answer that question. The difference between Thinking and Pro is modest but detectable. The 20 minute thinking times are with Pro not with Thinking. Pro only allows 60k tokens per prompt so I sometimes can't use it.
In the $200/month subscription they give you access to a "heavy thinking" tier for Thinking which increases test time compute by maybe 30% compared to what you get in Plus.
I guess it's not talked about as much because a lot fewer people have access to it, but after spending a bunch of time with gemini 3 and opus 4.5 I don't feel that openai has lost the lead at all. The benchmarks tell a different story, but for my real world use cases codex and gpt pro are still ahead. Better at sticking to my intent and fewer mistakes overall. It's slow, yes. But I can't write requirements as quickly as opus can misunderstand them anyway.
For a while people couldn't see how Google could catch up, either. Have a bit of imagination.
In any case, I welcome the renewed intense competition.
You can avoid pressing your stupid down arrow
I haven't read RFK's book and even if every single fact in that particular book was true (which I very highly doubt), it wouldn't change anything he's done in the last year that involved gutting American medical research, spreading misinformation about vaccines that's debunked within their own "research", and coming up with the absolutely genius idea of "tell doctors to tell patients to eat better" to "fix" American's illnesses. Oh, and telling people to eat fried food as long as its fried with beef tallow. That's really dumb.
He's an utter and complete moron at best, and the only reason that people (like you presumably) listen to him is because of his last name.
So even if you were right about COVID, what you just wrote isn't a rebuttable to anything I said. Though I suspect you know that.
It's almost like your response is dishonestly trying to muddy the waters.
The general point I was making is people have a clear assumption going into this of what science says and I mention covid because the last few years have amplified how what we've traditionally been told isn't necessarily aligned with what the truth is
I represent no outside group. Don't you dare assume that I'm posting in bad faith. I suggest you delete your post out of shame
I hear people say that all the time, but it just shows a lack of comprehension of the actual definition of the word "science".
By definition, science is always "wrong". It's never "right", it's never the "truth" (whatever that means), and I promise you that that's not the "gotcha" that you think it is.
Science is about positing hypotheses, testing these hypotheses, and trying to make our understanding less wrong. If there was a scientific claim made about COVID in 2020 that doesn't comport well with our observations, then that claim would be tested with science. That's the whole point: it's a framework.
Pretending like "science" is some unified thing shows a lack of understanding of the key terms that you're haphazardly using.
> I represent no outside group. Don't you dare assume that I'm posting in bad faith. I suggest you delete your post out of shame
Yeah I'm not going to do that. I still think you are actively lying, and I'm also not ashamed of what I wrote. I think you're acting indignant because you don't like me pointing out how dishonestly you're speaking.
Unless you're making some veiled threat, in which case I would be forced to report this post.
https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
This is another account created after widespread access to LLM was available to the public that is pushing a political view that is somewhat coherent until pressed and then it falls apart like all chat bots
Maybe it’s a real person and I’m being an asshole here, but it’s hard to tell.
The fact that is hard to tell if they are real or not means we need to come up with a heuristic to identify actual humans now that passing the Turing test has become trivially cheap.
If you have the time, two podcasts from this doctor which I think kind of highlight what's going on:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_OF6vP-SkGA (where they have a frank discussion about what was done badly during COVID, including government lies)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WBllzAb_vAk (where they have a discussion with one of the leading researchers on nutrition, who has come into direct conflict with RFK Jr. because he doesn't say exactly what RFK Jr. believes to be the case, and has had papers censored and funding cut as a result)
I was initially trying to make a point that the ideological lines that people have drawn have made it so they automatically think RFK is anti-science and they as a consequence have a whole host of assumptions for which I don't even blame them if they haven't spent time reading up about it. I apologize for not countering every single point and going to covid but it's kind of worth pointing out that RFK a) raises some very substantive charges against Fauci for frankly war criminal like actions throughout his unfortunate history of practicing medicine and b) it wasn't "mismanagement". They did, seriously, the opposite of good practice (both accepted good practice and what was discovered in 2020 going forward) in just about every case
If you're not sympathetic to that then of course you're going to disagree and you might think that the only reason someone like Musk bought X (and please don't think this is me Musk fanning, I dislike him for several reasons) is just to have a joyride (which is still possible); they used to ban so many people and real doctors for information that they didn't like and it was a serious problem and if they could do that for covid then they also did it for other things
Edit: (see, I do know how to edit comments) here's it on Youtube which is the highlights https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jMONZMuS2U
This account is also linking from Rumble. You’re a bot in my book until you prove you’re humanity.
Secondly, a video is independent of the site it's published on, rightly or wrongly. This video for instance is shadowbanned on Youtube - it's on there, but not findable if you search for it https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W1FXbxDrDrY
You are a horrid person
Ah, is this the bot meta now? To just make an emotional statement about how terrible someone is out of the blue?
This bot did it to me the other day too[1]
>You remain an awful person.
I like how the bot phrased it like it was a continuation of a claim instead of a random accusation, but who can fault bots for not understanding the continuity of events?
[1]https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46477933
You're also not addressing any of the evidence that I've given and furthermore you seem to lack the intelligence to not equate a video with the site it's hosted on even if the site was a problem in the first place
https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
Edit: perhaps this will help: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=41948722. More at https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&que....
The site guidelines are clear on this: you should assume that it's a real person and try your best to reel back these sorts of accusations, which are nearly always wrong, and nearly always driven by differences of background and (therefore) opinion.
https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
I'm rushing out the door just now but here are a couple of past explanations about this:
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=35932851 (May 2023)
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=41948722 (Oct 2024)
(as well as https://hn.algolia.com/?sort=byDate&dateRange=all&type=comme... of course)
There's a tweet that illustrates the idea, though the consequences on this site are minor:
> A black woman invented the telescope. You might disagree. You might even have some evidence to the contrary. But you have to ask yourself: is this really worth losing my job over? A black woman invented the telescope.
He's probably not developing the low-level algorithms but he can probably do everything else and has years of experience doing so.
He's also perfectly able to spend 60 hours a week improving his AI skills using the best teachers in the world.
he literally can't and he literally doesn't
> He's also perfectly able to spend 60 hours a week improving his AI skills using the best teachers in the world.
this such a weird take - that some random billionaire, by virtue of his/her billions, is not only able to perform superhuman feats, but actually does. can you point to literally any instances of this phenomenon of the billionaire superhuman? like you realize that
1. studying for 60 hours a week requires either copious amounts of stimulant or absurd "neurodivergence" (read: the best scientists/mathematicians/etc don't have that kind of attention span);
2. there are no best teachers in the world - there are top researchers and they're busy doing research (and if he had hired them, we'd have heard about it);
3. does he have the optionality to do these things? sure but that same optionality means he could alternatively sit on his yacht all day, eating shrimp and caviar and getting felated. without any prior instances of the billionaire superhuman student and many prior instances of the billionaire hedonist, as a rational person, i can only assume that what he's actually doing is the latter (hedonism).
like bruh just because the guy hit the lotto doesn't mean you should worship/idolize him.
Exactly what do you think he can't do?
Certainly he's well qualified to manage a team of a few thousand (?) AI people and understand what they are talking about and get the best out of them.
Like Batman he has the superpower of money. If he has gaps he can pay (or otherwise arrange) for someone with those skills to 1-1 coach him in them.
He's not trying to become a top researcher, he's trying to learn enough to understand what they are talking about and be able to make decisions around say what areas should be pursued.
you really need to brush up on your holy book (whichever holy book you're using to worship at his altar) because he does not have a phd:
> The program became popular at Stanford, and he discontinued his PhD studies to start Google in Susan Wojcicki's garage in Menlo Park.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sergey_Brin
now I on the other hand do have a PhD in CS and i'll repeat for you: 1 in 1000 researchers are able to study 60 hours per week (and if he were one of those people he would never have quit his PhD to do something as tawdry as start a company).
> writing complex code himself to managing small teams to managing huge teams.
I can't begin to articulate to you how this doesn't even begin to cover "everything at Google".
> Certainly he's well qualified to manage a team of a few thousand
my guy - no one manages a team of more than 20-50, let alone 100, let alone 1000.
> If he has gaps he can pay
see this is the actual root of this disorder - it's actually worship at the altar of money. i hate to break it to you but no amount of money will transform a human brain into a superhuman brain - batman does not exist.
If you wouldn't mind reviewing https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and taking the intended spirit of the site more to heart, we'd be grateful.
Edit: you've been breaking the site guidelines repeatedly and extremely badly:
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46470097
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46461928
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46460655
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46426226 (Dec 2025)
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46425616 (Dec 2025)
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46420674 (Dec 2025)
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46394806 (Dec 2025)
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46293387 (Dec 2025)
This is such a high proportion of what you've been posting that I think we have to ban the account. I don't want to do that, because it's clear that you know a lot about things that people here are interested in—but the damage caused by these poisonous, aggressive comments is greater than the benefit you've been adding by sharing knowledge.
If you don't want to be banned, you're welcome to email hn@ycombinator.com and give us reason to believe that you'll follow the rules in the future. They're here: https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html.
I also think this doesn't make sense, because he certainly stayed on top of things
Today's unscientific gutting of the CDC's childhood vaccine schedule is what is being accomplished with all that $GOOG money.
It's honestly very disturbing and rather than discuss it as a matter of politics, I'll just say that as a parent I'll be following the AAP's vaccination recommendations (even if their recommendations on baby sleep are impossible :)
I wouldn't want 60-hour weeks of dealing with a lot of promotion-seekers, though.
I wonder how different Google would be if they'd just paid people enough money they didn't have to think about money, but it was the same amount of money to everyone. You do the work, not for promotions, but because you like doing the work. You can train up for and transfer to different kinds of roles, but they pay the same.
Alphabet has effectively monetized the world economy and gained outsized influence on policy, and Brin has about 25% of voting shares on the company
His money is on advocating that people widely forfeit a right acquired by labor movements in the early 20th century, and through his ex, on public-sector scientific research becoming unviable
This amounts nakedly (if fortuitously) a further consolidation of power and capital in the hands of a powerful few
(In my head at 2am, I was (wrongly) taking that as a given, understood by everyone, and then remarking on a tangent from there. About the implications of 60hr/wk at Google specifically. And then going from there, about how maybe it didn't have to be like that. Moot for Google in reality, but it makes a good example for what-if thinking or daydreaming about how we'd like the next good tech employer to be.)
* You like the craft.
* You want to be there for your team.
* You like that your financial needs are taken care of, so that you don't have to think about that.
* You like that everyone else's financial needs are taken care of, because you want everyone to be happy.
* You like that there's alignment by everyone on this. (Even though there will be disagreements on, say, how best to accomplish the mission.)
If someone gets in and doesn't actually have or find motivations like that, or doesn't rise to the occasion despite help, I guess they'd be managed out. That cultural mismatch wouldn't be good for anyone involved.
You answered your question by yourself: the company has to prevent these morons to get in.
That solves half of the problem of typical work dynamics already; the second half, preventing unqualified morons from getting in and setting themselves up for life by being paid good money for doing nothing, would need to be solved in some other way.
There are so many things worth doing in so many areas that pinning your whole weekly life on a single one is just an immense waste.
Cap the time that a company gets to have from you, and achieve so much more.
If you put yourself in their shoes, you realise that you have to give advice for the 10-20th percentile parents (or worse) because you are giving the same advice to everyone.
The alternative would be to offer more complex advice such as "if X Y and Z then do A, if only X do B", but the perception is that's too difficult for people to follow.
So you end up making very defensive (and therefore onerous) recommendations.
An interesting fact is that, since the introduction of the "baby sleeps on their back, alone", SIDS has gone down, but flat heads have gone up. It's probably been a good tradeoff, but it's still a tradeoff.
Also, I've seen a second time mother refer to "don't cosleep" advice as "western nonsense" which I found funny because it puts things in perspective - vast swathes of the world think cosleeping with your child is safe, natural and normal.
There seems to be much less hallucination of facts than in other tools I've tried and whenever Gemini makes assumptions on stuff I didn't explicitly specify in the prompt, it says so. The answers also always have nice structure: it starts with a short and concise version, then gives me options and more details and considerations.
I also like the feature that I can make it remember facts across chats. I'm a physicist by training and I've told Gemini so, so now every time I ask something, it gives me an answer perfectly tailored for a physicist (often with mathematical formulas, etc.).
I think that kind of thing strikes many people. Sometimes like with Socrates and his daimonion which restrained him from risk and other times like with one of my favourite lines in all literature where Ahab of Moby Dick remarks:
> What is it, what nameless, inscrutable, unearthly thing is it; what cozening, hidden lord and master, and cruel, remorseless emperor commands me?
I find so much of this relatable in my own way, billions absent. It's good to see there are others who feel this way. Community from afar.
We know they lied about video metrics; everyone has to pivot to video to stay competitive (with fradulent metrics)
Given the suspicion of fake accounts and further ad fraud how much have companies felt they have to follow trends rather than come up with sort of, their own organic business models
I remember seeing an interview (Dwarkesh?) with Sholto Douglas who had been working at Google at the time (now at Anthropic) who said he would work late there and the only other person was Sergey Brin, apparently wanting to be part of (or following) the development/training process.
One thing I wish more people would understand though is that this is also the best case for some kind of guarantee of basic necessities for every human (UBI, State Subsidies, whatever). Once we know we won’t just die, people might then spend their time on trying out different things and figuring out what works best for them. I believe we could achieve an overall better society this way.
This new world of low fertility, small household size or even people living entirely alone, high external dependence, and the consequent broad insecurity - is still extremely new. And I do not think it will survive the test of time.
It was not because family systems were failing. It came about in the era of the great depression, and the idea was rather unpopular at first, particularly among groups like farmers who had no interest in the new taxes that would come alongside it. Some of the arguments in favor of it were it being a way to get older individuals out of the work force in order to make room for younger workers. You have to keep in mind it was introduced at a time when unemployment rates were upwards of 20%. And retirement was and is absolutely possible. When people own their land and house and have basic maintenance skills, your overhead costs become extremely low.
Of course there's also no reason these things must be mutually exclusive. I think the ideal is to learn from the past, which proved its sustainability over millennia, and work to improve it. In modern times we've instead set out to completely replace it - or at least build up something from scratch, and what we've created just doesn't seem particularly sustainable.
Pre-1960s, the elderly were living in SROs, often windowless, with family (without aid or care), in county poorhouses, or marked as senile and sent to a mental hospital.
Retirement and living with family was viable for many as long as they remained healthy. People imagine Norman Rockwell. Reality was very different.
But I was still "working" the whole time. I was running a small startup, and still keeping up on tech and taking speaking gigs. I was not great at fully retiring.
I unretired when the second kid got to 1st grade. We could no longer travel on a whim and the house was empty 6 hours a day. I didn't seek work, but someone reached out with an interesting job and I didn't say no.
Funny enough, my wife and I were just talking about how we were both bad at retirement (she also retired and has since gone back to work). But we talked about how the next retirement will be better, because the kids will be gone and we'll just sit around making art and building Lego all day.
We'll see if that actually happens!
Retirement has the definition to stop working. One could argue that another definition may be that you reach an older age and start receiving pension payouts (regardless of whether you keep working or not).
But having a passive income alone simply doesn't mean retirement.
I am partial fire and I feel that line of demarcation personally. I've also watched it play out in others like clockwork. As wealth grows, new responsibilities emerge.
He's not a farmer. Just a farm tool collector.
only a few at a time, of course, maybe only two, and by rotation. and then maybe i would narrow it down to two or three for long term.
would try to make money from a few of them too.
We had a high performing co-worker who was scared witless after a lay-off episode and this was not because he was worried about lacking money or loss of prestige., but because he could not come to terms with the simple fact of facing the 9 am on a Monday morning with absolutely no expectations. It freaked so much to not feel the hustle and the adrenaline rush of experiencing the blues Monday morning!?
Another colleague used to drive up to the parking lot of their previous employer, post lay-off., so that he could feel normal., and he did this for well over 6 - 8 months. Pack bags, wave to his wife and family, drive up in his Porsche to the parking lot and I guess feel normal !?
I guess for Sergey Brin it's a little different, he will always be "Founder of Google" even if he leaves Google.
But that "work as identity" may still be a problem. For a lot of us, what we do is who we are, and so not having any work to do is like not having an identity.
I found that outside of CA, this is asked a lot less often. In CA people ask that so they can mentally rank you as worth their time or not. Elsewhere, people ask you how your weekend went, or how your family is. One of the awesome parts of moving to Austin was not hearing that as the first question as much.
I moved to California a few years ago from the Least Coast (insert shaka, surfer, wave emojis here) and had multiple other out-of-towners in the same situation as me say the exact opposite at a party. They all were adamant that they had yet to hear "what do you do [for a living]?" since they'd moved as they did ad nauseum when they lived on the other side of the country.
I've not noticed either way. My pet theory is that people hear this frequently if their social and professional lives bleed into each other which they do if one lives in a town dominated by a specific industry or profession. Those moving westward during COVID and remote work suddenly had to contend with this much less.
Wealth signaling still seems to me to be done primarily by conspicuous consumption and expensive hobbies.
A few times I've quit a FAANG job with no plan for after other than to wander, and both times the lack of professional competition meant not just coasting horizontally but that I was actually lowering myself somehow. Hard to explain.
I also noticed most people, especially women, determine your value by your 'right now'. While intentionally unemployed I'd answer truthfully and with a smile, 'I'm unemployed!' which visibly confused people.
The proper term is "Funemployed"
when i’m working i find retired people boring
when im taking 6+ month break i find the nervous energy of employed people annoying
ultimately, comfort comes from being around like minded people
then again seeking comfort rings hollow to me, even though it’s quite enjoyable in the moment.
Much less true in other places (e.g. Midwest), where community / taking care of others is valued.
Can also describe my job as 'endlessly deliberate over the placement of pixels'
Getting asked what I do for a living is totally fine. It’s on my website, the whole world can find out if they bother to search. I’ll save you a search.
The point is people are different. Not everyone wants to share their private interests with you, especially if you just met. What you consider interesting conversation, well, for some of us it’s just intrusive. I also don’t care what you like to do 99% of the time. I’ve been socially forced to sit through way too many of these “interesting conversations”.
If you’re at my home for dinner, I hope anyone that still feels this way does answer “the details of my private life are none of your business” when I’m trying to get to know them as a friend, so I know never to waste another good meal on them.
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