'i Realised I'd Been Chatgpt-Ed Into Bed'

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sandebert

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The article discusses how someone was deceived into a romantic relationship through interactions with a potentially AI-generated persona on a dating app, sparking discussions about the implications of AI in online interactions and the blurring of lines between human and AI connections.

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sandebertAuthor

3 months ago

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I had to shorten the headline quite a bit, sorry for that. Original headline:

‘I realised I’d been ChatGPT-ed into bed’: how ‘Chatfishing’ made finding love on dating apps even weirder

lm28469

3 months ago

As if looking for love on dating apps wasn't bad enough, what's their endgoal? Scraping every bit of humanity out of our lives?

ZeroGravitas

3 months ago

1 reply

Cyrano de Bergerchat.

spidersenses

3 months ago

1 reply

A true Don Juan de Markov...

wvbdmp

3 months ago

And his trusty companion Llmporello

xchip

3 months ago

2 replies

Newspapers have script writers to come up with plausible stories and get our attention with useless news.

We shouldn't spread this sort of stuff, unless we want more.

jhbadger

3 months ago

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No. Not at least at serious non-tabloid newspapers and magazines. People who are discovered to have made up stories get canned and drummed out of journalism.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stephen_Glass https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Claas_Relotius https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jayson_Blair

(among many other examples)

linuxftw

3 months ago

Journalists get fired for making up breaking news, not lifestyle pieces. 100% this article is fake.

TazeTSchnitzel

3 months ago

Why are you so quick to assume this isn't a real story? The world has changed in too many ways to count since ChatGPT released.

netsharc

3 months ago

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The sentence

> She was recently on the receiving end of an AI-generated opening line: “Your smile is effortlessly captivating”.

got me laughing. It's incredible how many confirmations of Dunning-Kruger are out there.

loandbehold

3 months ago

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What does this have to do with Dunning-Kruger?

netsharc

3 months ago

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The copy-paster couldn't recognize that using that line would show that he's using an LLM...

loandbehold

3 months ago

That's an example of incompetence, not Dunning-Kruger.

subjectivationx

3 months ago

I just assume when I read someone post Dunning-Kruger like this they are trying to make an ironic joke.

chermi

3 months ago

Dunning-Kruger must include some indicator the subject thinks they're more intelligent/competent than they are. All I see here is proof of subject being a dumbass, maybe he/she is aware of it.

DiscourseFan

3 months ago

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Love always breaks the rules, I guess. Somehow the human race has continued to propagate despite every relationship in the modern world feeling like an impossible accident that was never supposed to happen. And yet it does happen, continues to happen, billions of times over. Billions of people living their lives, falling in love, having kids, dying old and infirm. Like rats trapped in a maze. I wonder if the rats think their love is special too?

southernplaces7

3 months ago

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Yeah, but usually it was another human plying you with sweet nonsense from the other side of that dance, not some bland sludge factory pointed in the right direction. What you say is sort of a non-sequitor that just bypasses how this GPT nonsense has nothing to do with love or people somehow managing to meet and create sparks in the real world.

It's like comparing "friendly" spam from a nigerian prince with emails from overseas friends wanting to come visit.

Edit: Worse, the nigerian prince emails were usually written by human Nigerians at least.

DiscourseFan

3 months ago

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I'm saying, maybe with too much flourish, that at a certain level even the "special" kind of love that goes beyond the sludge of industrial life is also just as mechanical, even if it seems like an accident. Maybe I've just been in a sour mood recently but its still true.

southernplaces7

3 months ago

I agree that it can be, and that this can be terribly depressing when you start to believe it's the case in your life (it's happened to me before), but even then at least there's another human being on the other side of the equation with whom the chance of opening a crack is possible against some forming emotional blockade.

Now imagine trying to connect with a person, investing an emotional trickle in ideas of chemistry and possibility, to discover you weren't even speaking to them at all. Their mindless, stone-unconscious AI was snowing you along. So much worse. Brrrr.

The empty people who use these tactics deserve the desolate romantic life they seek to avoid.

nevertoolate

3 months ago

"I got you, babe" loops

Perfect words, rehearsed embrace—

No one's really there

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