I Ended My Relationship Because AI Told Me To
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The author ended their relationship based on advice from an AI tool, sparking a discussion on the role of AI in personal decision-making and the boundaries between technology and human relationships.
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It's like the internet has made "attention whoring" the centre of our economy.
You might as well say "I behaved irresponsibly and as I write this I am still irresponsible. What to do, O what to do??"
How about take responsibility for yourself?
Digital algorithms now play a role in those belief systems, and the broadcasting of lifes in those digital platforms is a key part of it.
The question "how to take responsibility for yourself?" and similar rejection attitudes nowadays act more like a public encouragement to self-shun. It is, in itself, an act of broadcasting with the explicit goal of interacting with such belief systems.
The most obscene thing you can do in such an arrangement of beliefs is to expose one of the belief systems. It is kind of an attention grabbing mechanism, but very different from Kardashian-style media presence. It's way, way more obscene.
I get meaning from reminding my fellow adults about what it means to BE an adult, instead of a child. I am marketing a philosophy of living.
I don't claim he is the one being obscene. I think he's quite conservative (the idea of AI influencing behavior is not new and his example is simplistic). I was talking about myself attempting to describe these dynamics in more clear cut terms.
It's also not universally obscene, it's obscene in a "everybody knows but you are not supposed to talk about it" way.
Kim Kardashians empire is now worth 5 billion $$$. These new life forms the attention ecosystem produces hardly resembles anything seen in the past. Everyday people start adopting celebrity techniques. Visibility is like oxygen to them, while the pre-attention ecosystem life treat it as exposure. We are seeing two diverging sub species.
I think AI is going to be very similar. And maybe it even develops a less virulent benign strain (like astronomy), but the bad one will hang around forever.
Stars and planets radiate energy. Some of that energy is visible light, most is not. Energy affects people physically and psychologically. The bodies in our solar system follow predictable cycles. To think that we are not affected by energy that hits the planet at regular intervals is silly. Does it control all of human behavior and events? Obviously not, but it's not doing nothing.
That's why I can put them together. They work together to create an effect in society. Astrology and horoscope belong together and support each other. Doesn't matter if one of them is less random.
The aspects you described (stars, cellestial bodies, energy) directly refer to scientific concepts. Which I find hilarious. It totally didn't started like that.
Look at what you said: light, kinds of energy. It totally is a domesticated strain of an earlier belief that was much different. The very domesticated strain you defend still supports the general idea of things like horoscope (in social dynamics terms), but it has come a long way in becoming more secular.
I would say my first description (a less virulent strain is possible) is spot on.
https://openai.com/index/how-people-are-using-chatgpt/
https://www.nber.org/system/files/working_papers/w34255/w342...
But those people will probably make similar mistakes making decisions in other ways anyway.
I think there might be issues, though, as a lot of people initially trust AI as some oracle instead of using it to help organize their thoughts. And some people will likely never be able to use AI properly.
No safe dosage.